Monday, March 21, 2016

Why The Hubs & I Go To Bed At The Same Time

Alright, things are about to get personal around here. Today I want to share with you why Brian and I make it a point to go to bed at the same time every night. Now please Don't get me wrong, I'm not here to judge what you and your spouse do and what works for your lives, but I do want to give you a few reasons in favor of having the same bedtime as your spouse.

1. Pillow Talk
One of my favorite parts of college was those unintentional late night chats with the roomie, whether they were about the flavor of ice cream served at the caf that night or the meaning of life. It seems that some of the best conversations happened in the dark, as we both lay there in our beds. And I'm happy to say that that hasn't changed in marriage! Brian and I have some of our best connecting of the day at bedtime, without the distractions of others or the TV or phones. It's just us and the dark, and sometimes that dark makes it easier to delve into the heavier topics as well. If for no other reason to go to bed at the same time, pillow talk would be reason enough for me!

2. Warmth
Uh, helloooo. Human bodies are warm. Especially boy bodies. And in the dead of winter, in our drafty old house, I am soooo grateful for my husbands warm body beside me so I can warm my ice-cold feet on his legs. Poor guy. He's such a champ. 

3. Cultivating Intimacy
The need for warmth leads to cuddling, and sometimes cuddling leads to more (sorry siblings/anyone who doesn't want to think about this, but yes, it's part of marriage). Plus, even when the cuddling doesn't lead to more, it still leads to feeling close, not only physically, but also emotionally, especially for those who have a high physical touch love language. There's not much I love more than being held in my hubby's arms at the end of a long day (I told you it was going to get personal!). Going to bed at the same time also helps cultivate our spiritual intimacy, as it's the one consistent time that we pray with each other.

4. Creating routines together

Brian and I live with the mindset that if we can do it together, why not? That includes household chores like laundry and dishes, hobbies, ministry, international trips ;), errands, and more! Sure, we both have responsibilities and activities that the other isn't involved in, but we like each other so we spend our time together if we can. And that includes bedtime. For all of the above reasons.

So there you have it! A few reasons that I L-O-V-E going to bed at the same time as my hubby. What about you? Do you and your spouse share a bedtime?

1 comment:

  1. You are a wise woman, Heather! It's a sweet blessing for me, as your Nana, to know that you and Brian have a deep love for each other. May God continue to bless you as you grow more in love with each other and the Lord!


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